Perfecters came to believe that in order to be loved they must be good and right to be worthy. Perfecters are conscientious, responsible, improvement-oriented and self-controlled. They can also be critical, resentful and self-judging.
Think: Martha Stewart, Judge Judy, Ralph Nader, Meryl Streep, Kate Middleton, Michelle Obama, Nelson Mandala.
Perfecters create a code of ethics and set the moral standard for everyone. There is an internal critic that critiques all they do as well as continually telling others what you “should and should not” do. They do this to save others from making mistakes.
Perfecters naturally wish to educate others to help them improve themselves. They are purposeful, orderly, self-controlled and are on a mission to continually improve themself and the world. They will willingly sacrifice to overcome moral adversity and for the overall good of their community. Ones are predictable, reliable, and solid citizens, and steered by strong values.
Ones focus on details, are organized and structured, see one right way of doing things, finds compromise difficult, quality more important than quantity, compares what is real to what would be perfect, gets irritated when others don’t meet their high standards, evaluates details closely.
Socially Perfecters interact with others to make everything better. They are passionate about and champion worthwhile causes. . Ones are very good at considering various opinions and making a fair evaluation. Generally they are loving and dedicated partners. Positive feedback is very important to them as they are so hard on themselves and long for serenity and peace both outwardly and inwardly.
Professionally Perfecters have an internalized set of high standards, a long list of expectations about how they and others should behave, as well as how activities should be structured and executed. Ones focus on meeting high standards and getting everything right. They are great in jobs where attention to detail is valued.
Perfecters when unhealthy, become more irritated and prickly. They tend to moralize and become more rigid with
the rules regardless of consequence or circumstance. Ones develop either/or thinking and pay less attention to other’s emotions. They can be judgmental and critical of others, telling them what they think is right. The more structured they become the less happy they are as well as others around them.
Healthy Perfecters are continually improving to their full potential, strive for perfection, have strong morals and a sense of responsibility, and always doing their best. They have high standards of fidelity, honesty, and charity.
There is more to the dynamics that make up your personality: how much growth you have had, wings (personalities on either side of your home type), your stress patterns.
Understanding all of these will give you a deep understanding of yourself…but most importantly how to grow and Get Loved The Way You Need.